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When you have mutual friends in common…

This year has been turbulent, fraught with pitfalls and finding out your FAVS can be problematic  is disturbing. Even more disturbing is them not recognizing they are flawed and problematic.

With each thread that appeared whether they knew it or not lines were being haphazardly drawn.  The fall out was interesting to watch. Folk who we thought were true blue had flaws that either we didn’t notice before or they were really good at hiding them. Some of those flaws were not easily forgiven or forgotten.

Black Girl Magic is not perfect.  That would be unrealistic to be perfect.  To be honest I don’t want to be perfect.  That means I have stop growing, I have stop learning.  If you are not learning and growing you are stagnant and that is just gross.  Hell I have issues, I still fuck up my peoples pronouns, I still have some unpacking to do with my issues dealing with my mom and dad.  I need to flesh this out some more.  But I will let this stand as is.



So, Yeah it’s December again..

Hey my long lost friend,

It’s December again, and I haven’t post really that much this year.  Mostly to do with working a lot of hours and not have enough energy to write about anything.  Not saying I didn’t have plenty of topics to choose from this year.  My brain is literally exploding with ideas but, not having enough spoons to do it.  I literally at this point work, go home sleep, eat, kiss my wife, shower and off to work again.  Times are a little tough right now.

But I do want to wish everyone a Happy New Year.  I hope everyone’s holiday was fabulous and was spent with people who love and cherish all of you.  For those who were not able to be around family that sees them as a whole person you have my love and I SEE YOU.  You are enough and that is okay.

With warm Black Girl Magic love

Me *wink*

The Aftermath

This happened across this nation in the aftermath of 9/11. It still is happening. When the tales of where were you, what were you doing start, no one is talking about what they went through. What we CREATED in the aftermath of 9/11. I will say it again… WHAT WE CREATED in the aftermath of 9/11.

Awake Black Woman

We lived in “The Valley”, he and I. Our neighbors thought we were married. But we weren’t. We used to get a giggle about that, him being gay and whatnot. Out walking my little Yorkie, enjoying the Southern California sunshine, arm in arm. He was my best friend and we loved each other, so I guess people sensed a closeness that went beyond “just roomies”.

Then the towers fell. Over there so far away and the phone calls to the East Coast family to make sure… I was lucky. So many were not. This story isn’t about that because it isn’t my story to tell. Because, as I said. I was lucky. We both were.

I want to tell you about this young man. Hard working, a man of Faith and Family. We got to know him on our daily walks, because we’d stop in now and then on the…

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There is absolutely no way you can

Compare the BBP to the KKK

Because folks seem to want to white wash Black Panther Party Movement..

A lot of these programs are still in use today, because they were started by the BPP.  The more you know 🌈

Black Panther Party Community Programs
1966 – 1982

1. Alameda County Volunteer Bureau Work Site

2. Benefit Counseling

3. Black Student Alliance

4. Child Development Center

5. Consumer Education Classes

6. Community Facility Use

7. Community Health Classes

8. East Oakland CIL (Center for Independent Living) Branch

9. Community Pantry (Free Food Program)

10. Drug/Alcohol Abuse Awareness Program

11. Drama Classes

12. Disabled Persons Services/Transportation and Attendant

13. Drill Team

14. Employment Referral Service

15. Free Ambulance Program

16. Free Breakfast for Children Programs

17. Free Busing to Prisons Program

18. Free Clothing Program

19. Free Commissary for Prisoners Program

20. Free Dental Program

21. Free Employment Program

22. Free Food Program

23. Free Film Series

24. Free Furniture Program

25. Free Health Clinics

26. Free Housing Cooperative Program

27. Food Cooperative Program

28. Free Optometry Program

29. Community Forum

30. Free Pest Control Program

31. Free Plumbing and Maintenance Program

32. Free Shoe Program

33. GED Classes

34. Geriatric Health Center

35. GYN Clinic

36. Home SAFE Visits

37. Intercommunal Youth Institute (becomes OCS by 1975)

38. Junior and High School Tutorial Program

39. Legal Aid and Education

40. Legal Clinic/Workshops

41. Laney Experimental College Extension Site

42. Legal Referral Service(s)

43. Liberation Schools

44. Martial Arts Program

45. Nutrition Classes

46. Oakland Community Learning Center

47. Outreach Preventative Care

48. Program Development

49. Pediatric Clinic

50. police patrols

51. Seniors Against a Fearful Environment

52. SAFE Club

53. Sickle Cell Anemia Research Foundation

54. Son of Man Temple (becomes Community Forum by 1976)

55. Sports

56. Senior Switchboard

57. The Black Panther Newspaper

58. Teen Council

59. Teen Program

60. U.C. Berkeley Students Health Program

61. V.D. Preventative Screening & Counseling

62. Visiting Nurses Program

63. WIC (Women Infants, and Children) Program

64. Youth Diversion and Probation Site

65. Youth Training and VirtueNetz HK – Design, Development & Internet Marketing

The last Wednesday of Jan 2016

Can you believe it? January is almost over.  27 days have literally flown by.

The northeast and mid atlantic was blasted by the Jonas Brother of a winter storm.  It could have been worse.  The Beibs could have shown up.  EEK

I am happy we didn’t get all that snow.  I would have called into work and attempted to do my job from home. Because nope!!

So did everyone survive Mercury Retrograde? We have 3 more retrogrades this year.  The next one is April 28th I believe.

This is just a short and sweet post.  Probably will post later once I have had my coffee.

Transgender Day of Remembrance, Elder Transphobia

Very interesting read. Take the time and read through this.

Pagan Activist

First let me apologize for my long absence from this site. I really have no excuse. I’ve let time get away from me or something. Perhaps practicing some of that self-care that I talk so much about is something that I need to be doing. Anywhoo…


Today is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. A day to remember all of those who have fought hard for the cause of trans rights, equality, and even simple recognition. A day to honor the memory of those who have fought and died, those who have been murdered, and those who have been straight-washed out of trans history. This is a day that saddens me and gladdens me. It saddens me to think of the countless lives that have been lost, shattered, and forgotten. It gladdens me that for so many years the LGBTQIA-etc community has been banding together, to extent or another…

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Early morning silence

It is early Wednesday morning around 2:30 am EST as I write this.

I have the TV on mute to block out the chatter coming from MSNBC; there has been a new development in France.

But my mind wanders to Nigeria where there was another explosion that killed 32 people, while they were shopping.  I don’t know how many mothers; fathers or even children were killed.  I just know there life ended today because of terrorism within their country.  The government failed to protect them.  The people they served they didn’t protect.  All of those dreams lost in an instance when some coward fucker decided to not only take his/her life (not sure if the bomber died) but to take innocent victims with them. 

My mind also wanders to another young black man who was shot in the head while in police custody.   He is currently as of this blog post on life support. The government has failed this family also. The police who are there to serve and to protect failed to do so with him.  His life mattered.   He had dreams and aspirations.  Will he actually have that chance to achieve them now? It all depends of whether or not he survives.  Even if he does survive this shooting, his life will be forever changed.  We will never know what he was going to do before this senseless shooting took place.  I send my prayers to him and his family and friends for support. 

I worry about the current generation that is in college (Missouri, Howard, Berkeley, and Yale there are a few others as well) fighting for change to occur.  All the while their lives are being threatened and not being taken seriously. 

It is a daily struggle to go out in this world, and to be look on as less then because of the color of your skin.  Before we even speak we have been judged entirely on our skin color.  This even happens before we are even seen.  When we apply to jobs online, if our names sound to ethnic, we may never get that called back.  Regardless if we are qualified to do the job.  They instantly know that they are not dealing with a white person.

But somehow folks seem to think we get all this cash in grants and loans to magically go to school with no hurdles to jump over.  The affirmative action was successful in getting us in.  We still have to fight and prove each day we belonged there.  We had/have to fight to stay there.  We had to deal with the struggles of micro aggression in classrooms.  We have had respectability politics thrown in our faces.  If we dress this way, wear our hair this way and talk this way; we will appear serious enough to be taken serious enough.  Even though we know we won’t be taken seriously.  Both Martin and Malcolm were assassinated in their Sunday’s best. 

There is a storm brewing. I can feel it, it will be a very nasty storm and the outcome is still murky.  But something has to give.   We can’t continue living this way.  We just can’t.


Blessings of the new day…..